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Sent: Nov 29, 2002
Subject: DoD: Gifts & Presents, Speaking & Writing

Welcome to the Distinctions e-Zine...
Ordinary Words ~ Extraordinary Power (TM)

In This Issue...
1. Holiday Presents or Holiday Gifts?
2. Distinctions in Public Speaking
3. The Two Kinds of Writing

[Feeling the loss of a loved one] “I’m never going to feel like this again . . . That’s true, every time you fall in love, it’s different . . . I feel so empty . . . Soon, all you’ll remember is the love.” – Star Trek: The Next Generation
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Gift & Present
The word “give” and “gift” are similar enough for me to guess that they were at some point in history, from the same root word. We give gifts. That means a gift is given without any attachments. No occasion, no reason, no requests, nothing. A gift isn’t about waiting for something in return. A gift is completely free.
Presents do have other things associated to them. Presents are given on occasions such as birthdays, anniversaries, and certain holidays. In some holidays, presents are exchanged so there is an assumption of receiving something in return. When we “present” an award or certificate, it is for a specific reason. Even spontaneous presents are signals of love, friendship, or other types of relationships.
Presentations are often delivered for something in return. School presentations for marks. Sales presentations for profit. Awards presentations for recognition. If nothing else, there is always a desire for recognition when delivering a present. As stated, there is also expectation associated to presents. That’s why often presents are wrapped. To lengthen and exaggerate the sense of expectation. There’s nothing wrong with that. The feeling of expectation is a great feeling and a great feeling to exaggerate. But it’s not about giving.
A present always has a physical form. A gift can have no form. A gift can be a smile. It can be a genuine compliment. It can be a pat on the back. It can be a word of encouragement. It can be a loving hug. A gift can be whatever the mind can conceive.
Give more gifts in life. The easiest person to give a gift to is a stranger. That’s because there’s automatically no expectation. There’s no recognition. And, if we walk away quickly enough, it’s impossible for the stranger to feel like they need to give something back.
None of these definitions are written to be technical. They are written to make us think and wonder about our language. For example, is making a donation to a charity a gift or a present? Since we get a financial benefit in return in that tax year, technically it is a present. But it all depends on the mind set in which we gave the donation. If we made a donation with the manner of completely giving without getting anything back, then it was a gift. The tax-break is just a gift to us from our government.
Whenever we give something to our universe, we always get something back. (This is also Newton’s third law in physics.) It’s like an unwritten law. The key is not to expect anything back. Just because we will get something back, doesn’t mean we didn’t give a gift. What makes a gift is the intention in which we gave it. If we give gifts often, we’ll likely get lots back in our life.

This holiday season, choose to give gifts. And, kindly remember, “A Dictionary of Distinctions” makes a great gift! A gift of communication. Your best buy is through BookSurge, $14.95. Click here to order: http://www.booksurge.com/author.php3?accountID=IMPR00565
For Torontonians who prefer to be in Canadian Dollars, please visit Pages Bookstore at Queen/John, opposite CityTV ($19.95 Cdn).

The Mini-Distinction Bookmarks(tm) also make great stocking stuffers for the avid reader!
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Personal, Pervasive & Permanent
“Most of us do only the things we think we’re able to do.” – A Dictionary of Distinctions, page 60.
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Three Distinctions of Public Speaking
Why is it important to distinguish the categories of public speaking? At one point or another, we’ll find ourselves present in all three of these possible situations. If we’ve ever thought, “this is so boring,” or “teach me something new,” or “I don’t feel like participating,” then these distinctions are for us. How we effectively make use of these experiences comes down to realizing which experience we are truly in, and then using the advantages of that particular distinctive experience to enhance the experience. Here are the distinctions:
Lecturing Information. From teachers to professors to technical presenters, this type of public speaking involves researching and conveying information to a captive audience. Lecturing information is important for those who are hungry for knowledge and interested in growing their intelligence.
Inspiring Audiences. This type of public speaking can be associated to the traditional motivational speaker or the sales trainer. This kind of public speaking gets people to think different, or act different. Sometimes, there isn’t any new information presented at all. It’s the new perspective or the new story that gets people at the edge of their seats. Here, it’s all about action. What are you going to do today?
Transforming Communities. Historical heroes such as Martin Luther King Jr. and John F. Kennedy have contributed to transforming communities. They don’t just get us to think different or act different. They get us to “be” different. They are the catalysts of ethical evolution. How is this happening today on a local scale? I believe communities are transformed when they become actively involved with a leader. So there isn’t a “presentation,” rather a “conversation.” This is what Landmark Education does. This is what the Sterling Institute of Relationship does. And this is what I attempt to do in my presentations. It’s all about interactivity and getting into the “world” of our audiences.
Note that these three categories aren’t distinguished to pigeon-hole any profession. In fact, quite the contrary. Think of Ministers for example. They have the choice to lecture biblical wisdom, inspire their congregation, or transform their religious community. Each choice has its respective advantages and disadvantages.
So, when we say to ourselves in the middle of a presentation, “When is this guy going to tell me something I don’t know?” let’s ask ourselves which category the presenter is in. If the presenter is attempting to inspire the audience, then they are doing their job. What we may want to consider is whether we are truly applying what we already claim we know in our lives.
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Reading
“Timing is everything. Have you ever read the right thing at the right time that caused you to take action and transform something for yourself? That’s why it’s good to read lots. That’s how we increase the probability of reading the right thing at the right time.” – Danish Ahmed
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Being
“Take Care, Take Risks, and Take it All” – Danish Ahmed & Steve Rogers
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The Two Kinds of Writing
Why is it that we write? To record. We write to capture moments. Moments of ideas, of inspiration, of opinions, or of abstract thought. These recorded moments become part of our history. They can be popularized and find themselves in libraries of the future. Or they can be personal diaries that get discovered by archeologists who now have a new found artifact of history.
In every moment there is so much communication that it could take many moments to analyze one particular moment. Therefore, we have no way of analyzing any moment until we have a way of first recording our moments.
There are two kinds of recording - there's recording in the moment, and there's recording for a specific purpose. When we record with a specific purpose, we automatically add a particular filter to the analyzing (that is, we’ve catered our writing to a particular market, hoping to get a particular outcome). And when we record in the moment, we leave the analyzing open to all possibilities.
Writing is art. I've never sat down and said, “Oh, let me think about a distinction!” That never happens; the distinctions have to come to me, and they come mostly in moments of inspiration. I could be on the Subway, in the shower, or almost falling asleep. When writing in the moment, I don’t know where the writing is going to end up. It could go in this e-zine, be the context for a future interview, be in an upcoming book, or it could go in the trash. We don't predetermine where it will go, we allow it to discover its own journey.
We can then add the “purpose” of the writing later. So that’s what I’m going to do now. What’s the intended outcome of this article? To illustrate that anyone can be a good writer. Let’s not sit down and try to write something and wonder why we have “writers’ block.” Rather, let’s carry a recording device (tape recorder, or an old-fashioned pen/paper), and record in moments of inspiration. Everyone has a book inside of them. The secret is in discovering the best process to get it out.
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Destiny
“Opportunities are pathways to possible destinies.” – Danish Ahmed
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"The world has a whole new level of transformation awaiting them because of who Danish is." – Jeanelle Julien, Early Childhood Education
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Sent: Nov 7, 2002
Subject: DoD: Best Friends & Life Partners

Welcome to the Distinctions e-Zine...
Ordinary Words ~ Extraordinary Power (TM)

In This Issue...

1. Distinctions in Personal Development
2. Conversations with Steve Rogers: Distinctions in Being
3. Best Friends & Life Partners

“Only G-O-D could be a king to me; and if the G-O-D be in me, then the king I be.” – Down With The King, Run-DMC with Pete Rock and CL Smooth
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Distinctions in Personal Development
The Bridge Between Theory & Application
What is Personal Development? There are so many words that we, or other marketers may use to describe what we think personal development is. For example, we may have heard of self-help, self-improvement, or peak-performance. We may have seen the concept targeted to a specific market, such as “professional” development. Or, if we’re on the cutting-edge, we may have heard of the new trillion dollar “wellness industry.”
Ultimately, personal development is about improving ourselves in any possible way, in any possible aspect of our lives. It doesn’t matter if it’s health, finances, time management, relationships, communication, or confidence building. For simplicity, we may just want to call various programs non-traditional “educational systems.” After all, they all attempt to educate us in varying non-linear methods.
There are lots of educational systems today that we may not realize the kind of impact they can have, or be aware of all the different methodologies of change that are available to us. Let’s distinguish some of the roots of personal development.
For more information on the roots of personal development such as Philosophy, Therapy, Psychology, Science, Metaphysics, Spirituality, and Music, please visit the home page of Ordinary Words Inc., at http://www.ordinarywords.com.
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Experience & Submission
“When you cease to set standards for the attitudes, beliefs, and conduct of your life, you automatically submit to those given to you.” – A Dictionary of Distinctions, Page 48
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Conversations with Steve Rogers
Distinctions in Being
Danish: Be like you're in the moment. Be here now. Don't think about what will happen, what has happened, or what could happen. Don't think about other aspects of your life. Don't have any conversations in your mind with yourself. Be in other people’s world, like it's the most important thing in the world.
Steve: So how do you do it?
Danish: The secret is to be in “the world” of other people... To do so, we must go to an easy place for us to start.
Steve: How do you figure out what an easy place is?
Danish: Connect the bridge between your world and what you perceive the other person’s world to be.
Steve: At first, you would be stuck on your end of the bridge, right?
Danish: That’s true. So, you move slowly. Don't try to start at 50% of the bridge (half way between you and them). You start at 1%, and move up percent by percent. You glide into their paradigm. This is called "Taking a Ride".
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Faith
“The only way we can be offended by another faith, is when our faith is not strong. The only way we can be offended by another faith, is when we question our own existence, our freedom, our choice, our truth. What do you believe? What do you hold dear? What, deep inside, are you living for?” – Danish Ahmed & Steve Rogers
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Time
“Time expands to the effectiveness of us making use of it.” – Danish Ahmed
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Best Friends & Life Partners
Our “best friends” are the people who know the most about us and our lives. We may have friends in different communities of our lives (e.g., health club, education, work, family, church) where we only talk about that particular community, or very little else. However, a best friend is someone who knows about our involvement in every single one of the communities that we are involved in on an intimate level.
A best friend is a very important person to have in our lives because that person knows the entire context and content of our lives. If something new happens in our life, the first person we are likely to tell is our best friend. This is because our best friend will have the most information and experience to draw from in order to give us the best response. And it is in these moments in particular (when we have something new happen in our lives) that we make use of a best friend.
I think a best friend is like an “inactive” life partner. Life partners are, of course, great and also encompass being a best friend. Life partner’s (spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc.) are also very active with each other. They do many activities with each other. And typically, they associate with each other’s network of family and friends. This is not necessarily true with a best friend. A best friend “knows” about everything, but isn’t necessarily “actively involved.” A best friend is typically “emotionally involved.” They feel our pain, they feel our joy, and they experience our lives in a psychic and spiritual way.
It’s great to be a social bud and have lots of great friends. It’s also great to want that perfect life partner. Now, with this distinction, don’t underestimate the value of a truly good, best friend.
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Complaining
“It’s amazing how good we can feel if we just stop complaining.” – Danish Ahmed
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The Secret
“The words ‘secret’ and ‘truth’ could be synonymous, because every truth we know is just a secret that we've discovered.” – Danish Ahmed
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Sent: Oct 22, 2002
Subject: DoD: Special Halloween & Small Business Month Issue

Welcome to the Distinctions e-Zine...
Ordinary Words ~ Extraordinary Power (TM)

In This Issue...

1. Hollywood Quotes - Powerful Communication in our Media
2. Small Business & Home Based Business - What do you have?
3. Distinctions that Make a Difference
4. The Concept of Completion - Empowering Communications in Relationships

“It’s amazing what you can do when you don’t have to look at yourself in the mirror anymore.” - Kevin Bacon, HallowMan
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Hollywood Quotes
I’ve now used quotes from Training Day, Vanilla Sky, and HollowMan. Some ask, what do these quotes mean and why are you using them?
Several reasons. First, I want to show that good quotes are not just from professional speakers, philosophers, or corporate executives. Good quotes are everywhere. Words are everywhere. It is how we see them, what we make them mean and how we use them that determines their value.
Secondly, I want to show that good can be found in almost everything. I know there’s some negatively associated to Hollywood movies. Ironically, especially by some of the personal development icons out there. I think it is brilliant how many scripts from Hollywood movies have really awesome dialogues. We have some great talent out there and there is much that we can learn from.
Finally, because these quotes are taken from dialogues and weren’t made to be “quoted,” we will find that we can exert a variety of different meanings from such quotations. That’s so cool. That illustrates the power of our minds, the power of interpretation, and the ability we all have to choose our reality.
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Truth, Belief & Reality
“Fear is having a belief, a feeling of certainty, that the future will be negative. Faith is having a belief, a feeling of certainty, that the future will be gratifying.” – A Dictionary of Distinctions, Page 20
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October is “Small Business Month”
Small Business & Home-Based Business
As technology changes our daily living and business practices, new trends are being created that are causing more small businesses to start-up, and more home-based businesses to start-up. Since both these trends are happening at the same time, and perhaps by similar societal shifts, the terms seem to be used interchangeably by many people. In fact, the new SOHO term (meaning, Small Office, Home Office), implicitly associates the two terms together. However, we will notice that the two terms carry with them some very interesting distinctions.
A home-based business is run from a residence. Technology makes this more possible today with low-cost computers, the Internet, long-distance, cell phones, PDA’s, and laptops. Societal trends make it attractive through traffic congestion, high-cost real estate, and downtown pollution. Economic trends make it necessary with downsizing, sub-contracting, and freelancing. Therefore, a home-based business does not imply a small business at all. In fact, there are many business doing large amounts of business volume and generating very large revenue streams through home-based businesses. Today, a home-based business is not a matter of size. It’s a matter of convenience.
What constitutes a “small” business is very subjective. It could mean having a staff less than 5 individuals. It could mean having annual sales less than $1 million. Or it could mean being less than 5 years old. When we use the term “small business,” we are allowing other people to use their own criteria to judge how big we are. And that judgement may be completely inaccurate. So when we have the option, let’s tell people we have a home-based business.
What if we don’t run our “small” business in our home? What if we are renting office space or have a small retail outlet? We don’t want to tell a lie. That’s right. In these cases, we need to come up with a new term. How about a “growing” business? This is both accurate and doesn’t allow the listener to assume anything. And, this term has some great advantages. It conditions our minds to think of our business as growing. It puts us in a mind set of wanting to expand. It also let’s the listener know that we’re interested in possibly having them help us grow. What a convenient way to attract potential customers or partners!
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Fear
“How can we be afraid of surveillance if we truly believe in God?” – Danish Ahmed
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Distinctions that Make a Difference
“I’m grateful for your thankfulness article. It has made such a difference already in how I think about communication! It’s an interesting exercise, expressing thanks without ever saying that word. It forces me to be more present to what I am truly grateful for. What a wonderful Thanksgiving gift!” – Mariel Camilleri Saringer, Director, Mysthaven Workshop Retreat Centre

Has a particular distinction made a difference for you? Submit your story to danish@ordinarywords.com.
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Reality
“The universe unfolds to the reality that we create.” – Danish Ahmed
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The Concept of Completion
This month I had an incredible opportunity to be interviewed by Raymond Aaron, co-author of the best-selling Chicken Soup for the Canadian Soul. Thanks to a home-based business and the miracles of technology, I did the one-hour interview on the telephone in my pyjamas!
When Raymond first called, he told me how he had a stressful event happen to him the night before so he was feeling a little ‘off.’ At first, one might think, oh no, how will the interview go? Will Raymond be able to pull-off a successful interview? Will he be able to focus and concentrate?
Actually, Raymond did an outstanding job. I believe what helped him to do such a good job was him expressing his feelings to me and getting it ‘off’ his chest. Landmark Education Corporation talks a lot about the concept of completion. When we just tell others, honestly, what was and may still be on our minds, it actually serves us to free our minds and be in the moment. By Raymond expressing to me his recent personal upset, he actually removed it from being in his mind during the interview. It was released into the universe so that he could concentrate on what he was up to - the interview.
Many times when we have an upset, it has nothing to do with what has happened in the moment. Rather, something happened in the moment that was a “trigger.” We are reminded of, or associate the present with something that has happened in the past. We become upset at our “past” without realizing it and blame it on the present. If we learn to complete and leave our past be in the past, we create a present that has less probability of having negative triggers.
“What do you need to say in order to be complete?” In other words, what is on our mind, that if we just say it, can get us to really “be here now.” Try it out. For example, before talking about an important topic with our significant other, let’s first both become complete about our day. We’ll find that this will help us be much more related to each other and we’ll have less tension and cause for upset.
This is also work that improvisers and professional actors use to get themselves into “an open frame of mind.”
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Wars & Battles
“The secret of winning wars is to wisely choose our battles.” – Danish Ahmed
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Professionally Speaking...

"Distinctions in Goal Setting"
Bank of Nova Scotia
Scotia Plaza (Toronto)
Tuesday, November 5, 2002, 12:00 PM

"Distinctions in Communication: Untapped Value in Business"
VisionStreet Networking Forum
The Grand Hotel on Jarvis, near Dundas (Toronto, Canada)
Thursday, November 21, 2002, 7:00 PM
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Communication
“Non communication is a form of communication that sends a strong message.” – Danish Ahmed
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Sent: Oct 9, 2002
Subject: DoD: Special Thanksgiving Issue

Welcome to the Distinctions e-Zine...
Ordinary Words ~ Extraordinary Power (TM)

“When you sleep with someone, your body makes a promise whether you do or not.” – Cameron Diaz, Vanilla Sky
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Word on the Street was a huge success!
A full day of smiling faces, interesting people, and loving family and friends. With a strong presence in both Toronto and Vancouver, we made lots of contacts and had lots of people subscribe to THIS Distinctions e-Zine! Word on the Street is a national book fair that celebrates literacy and the printed word. Follow this link to see a large image of our booth http://www.dictionaryofdistinctions.com/word.jpg.
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Balance & Integration
“No single element of our life can really be fully developed without developing other elements.” – A Dictionary of Distinctions, Page 36
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Happy Thanksgiving! :)
Gratitude & Thanks

I really admire your dedication in reading through this newsletter. It gives meaning to my life that other people can appreciate my experiences and ideas. I truly hope that this is making a difference in your life and opening you to new ways of being and communicating. You are in a select group of people who want to improve their lives and are willing to exert effort to make things happen.
Notice that I didn’t say “thank-you” or “thanks?” Raymond Aaron, a professional speaker in Canada, says that one of the qualities in being successful is appreciation. His twist, however, is to remove the word “thank you” from our vocabulary. What a powerful idea!
Saying thanks often gives us a short-cut in life. It allows us to say two words to express gratitude, but these two words are so over-used in our daily living that people don’t make anything of it. We thank people for everything! If someone says, “How are you?” we say, “Fine. Thank You.” We must hear hundreds of “thank-you’s” everyday. With that many, a “thank-you” has very little value.
When we eliminate those two words, we force ourselves to really think about what we want to show gratitude for. We become more expressive and describe what the other person has done that we appreciate. That is sincere. That is authentic. When people hear that, they feel special. When people hear that, they want to do more.
This is not to say that we should eliminate the two words from our vocabulary all together. We could be self-expressive and genuine, and say “thank-you” at the end. However, the exercise of not having those words readily available helps us to become more expressive. It’s a wonderful practice.
Let’s have an attitude of gratitude. That’s a cliché many people think is important, yet don’t necessarily practice to its full extent. When we are expressing gratitude, let’s think about what we’re saying. Let’s express our feelings. Let’s deliver acknowledgment. Let’s not stop at a “thank-you.”
In Australia, a quick thank-you is often expressed as a “ta.” That’s right, “ta.” I was startled when I first heard that. However, that cultural twist does make a difference. In small scenarios of appreciation, a “ta” does suffice. And, when a “thank-you” is being used, it is valued at a higher level. What an excellent example of how a single word can make such a profound difference in communication.
A French proverb says, “Gratitude is the heart’s memory.” When expressing gratitude, don’t think. Just feel what your heart already knows.
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Our Bodies
“The market price of a crash-test dummy is now $200,000. How much is your body worth?” – Danish Ahmed
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Reaching for #1
After only four weeks on BookSurge, "A Dictionary of Distinctions, Second Edition" has made it to best-sellers list! Follow this link to see http://www.booksurge.com/bestseller.php3.
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Being Present
“Usually, we try to logic ourselves into changing what we’re thinking about, rather than just changing what we’re thinking about. The latter is a lot easier, and a lot less stressful.” – Danish Ahmed
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Professionally Speaking...

"Distinctions in Goal Setting"
Bank of Nova Scotia
Scotia Plaza (Toronto)
Tuesday, November 5, 2002, 12:00 PM

"Distinctions in Communication: Untapped Value in Business"
bConscious Networking Forum
The Grand Hotel on Jarvis, near Dundas (Toronto, Canada)
Thursday, November 21, 2002, 7:00 PM
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Understanding
“We lose our freedom to understand when we bring up the barrier of discretion.” – Danish Ahmed
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Sent: Sept 23, 2002
Subject: DoD: Dreams & Birthdays

Welcome to the Distinctions e-Zine...
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“If you don’t network, you don’t get work.” – Author Unknown
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We’re growing!
This community is exploding. No more BCC’ing with Outlook Express! Notice that this e-mail is delivered directly to you – just you in the “TO” field.
As most e-Zine’s increase in their numbers, they usually hire a service to do this administrative stuff for them. But changing careers has its advantages. I’ve used my technical skills to write a little Visual Basic program that is now sending out this e-zine. Cool, eh?
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“Satisfied curiosity creates excitement.” – Danish Ahmed
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A Dream of Distinction
On page 96 of “A Dictionary of Distinctions,” I ask “They say a picture is worth a thousand words. If so, how much is a five-minute dream worth?”
Let’s really figure it out. Those in the video or electronic media industry will tell you that standard quality videos (most television sets) have approximately 30 frames per second. That means, to make a movie look like a “movie,” there are actually 30 pictures that are displayed consecutively in one second. The eye sees so many (30) pictures so fast (1 second) that it perceives it as real-motion. Since there are 60 seconds in a minute, that means there are 60 x 5 = 300 seconds in 5 minutes. With 30 frames (or pictures) in one second, we get 300 x 30 = 9,000 frames.
So, if a picture is worth a thousand words, a five-minute dream is worth 9,000 x 1,000 = 9,000,000 words! The average book has 30,000 words, so a five-minute dream is worth about 300 books.
Sorry for all the figures, but please get my point. It’s not enough to have a great slogan, a nice mission statement, and all the desire and ambition in the world. Visualizing our dreams on a consistent basis has such an enormous benefit! We’ve taken a technical look at how much value is in a five-minute dream. And, we haven’t even touched on the emotional dimension!
Don’t just dream the great visuals, but add emotions and feelings to the visualization. That will increase its value exponentially! Remember what Scott Michael says, “If you don’t have a dream, how are you going to make a dream come true?”
Every morning, as soon as I wake up, I thank God and the universe for where I am (a great practice I learned from Tim Foley, former player for the Miami Dolphins). Then, I visualize for five minutes where I am going. I see myself speaking in front of large audiences. I see myself traveling around the world. I see the girl of my dreams proud of me by my side. I see a difference being created in the lives of people around me.
What dreams do you have AFTER you wake up?
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“If our day-to-day actions don’t have a larger meaning to support what we’re designing in our lives, then our day-to-day actions automatically become conditioned by outside factors like the media.” – Danish Ahmed
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Celebration & Party
My birthday is this week and, as usual, I was thinking of a distinction I could make that relates to a current event. Although not a current event for everyone, this distinction will be remembered by you within the next 12 months!
A party is about a gathering of people to have fun. It is about joy and happiness. It is about forgetting our worries and focusing on the good things in life. Notice how we have birthday “parties.”
A celebration is about remembering the past and appreciating the present. It is about enjoyment and happiness, but also about reflection, completion, and fulfillment. A celebration can act as a real stepping-stone into a new beginning for a brand-new future. I think there could be a lot more birthday “celebrations.”
When celebrating our birthday’s, let’s think about our past year and entire life up until now. Let’s not just look for the positive, but look for the negative, look for the neutral, and look for everything worth noting. This kind of inquiry will get us present to the diversity and variety of experiences that we have accumulated over our life span, thus far. And that is definitely worth celebrating!
How are you “celebrating” your next birthday?

*** Special Offer ***

I joke with family members on their birthdays by saying, “What are YOU getting me for YOUR birthday?” I even tried to solicit presents by suggesting that this is how other cultures in the world celebrate birthdays!
So, here’s the special offer. For my birthday, I am GIVING away an additional coaching session for anyone who buys 6 or more copies of my book, from September 28 to September 30 (inclusive). If you’re part of a club (e.g., University club, Toastmasters club, Networking Group), then get together and share the power of distinctions. Or, simply practice your networking skills and get 5 other friends together. (You can get copies through me directly, or can forward a receipt from Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Pages, BookSurge, or eBooks2go.)
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"We don't always learn from knowing the truth, but we always do get inspired by noticing a positive possible future." – Danish Ahmed
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On The Go
One of my secrets as a business person is to always have more than one thing on the go. I realized that when I focused only on one thing, I always had pockets of space - free time where I was waiting for other people and couldn’t really productively move forward without someone else completing something. In these pockets of space, when I didn’t have anything to do, I had a tendency to have negative feelings. That is, for example, to over-analyze everything, to worry about things, to feel that things aren’t moving fast enough, or to blame others for their lack of efficiency and urgency.
That isn’t to say that I stopped having focus. However, what I did, and now do, is to make sure I always have at least two things on the go. The beauty is that when I make myself productive in more than one area, I create momentum, confidence and faith in myself because I realize that, out of the many things that I am up to, one of them has to work based on the law of averages.
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“Uncontrolled emotions cause our perceptions to become pervasive over our whole life.” – Danish Ahmed
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Professionally Speaking...

Queen's Park
14 Carlton St., 2nd Floor (Toronto)
Wednesday, September 25, 2002, 6:00 PM

Word on the Street Festival
Downtown Toronto
Sunday, September 29, 10:00 AM
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“See possibility in everything and know that there is always a possibility we haven’t seen.” – Danish Ahmed
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Sent: Sept 5, 2002
Subject: 9-11, Interdependent Goals

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“Urgency is the outcome of our criteria. Urgency is only such based on importance, interest, excitement, passion, profitability, relatedness, or whatever else we choose.” – Danish Ahmed
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Distinctions from 9-11
September 11, 2001 was a historic day for all of us. As the anniversary of that date approaches, we can’t help but sadly recall the events, the tragedy and the great human toll that was extracted. However, this is also a good time to reflect on the eloquent response of President George W. Bush and the positive message that he imparted. In his speech to Congress, the American People and global citizens, he said:
“We will rally the world to this cause by our efforts, by our courage. We will not tire, we will not falter, and we will not fail.”
While the words “tire,” “falter,” and “fail” may merely seem like repetitive jargon to create emotional emphasis or poetic harmony, they actually contain a significant depth of communication.
We will not tire. This has to do with our efforts. This has to do with our persistence. This has to do with our perseverance. This word expresses our consistent actions to attain our cause.
We will not falter. This has to do with our competence. This has to do with our intelligence. This has to do with our wisdom. This word expresses our resourcefulness to attain our cause.
We will not fail. This has to do with our conviction. This has to do with our determination. This has to do with our confidence. This word expresses our faith in attaining our cause.
As we can see, there’s a depth of meaning in just three distinct words. They were wisely chosen.
We live in a world where effective communication is vital in sustaining peace and understanding amongst all global citizens. George W. Bush delivered these words with pride and elegance, but more importantly, with distinction. “We will not tire, we will not falter, and we will not fail.”
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Remembering Moments Powerfully
“It doesn’t matter which moments we remember. What matters is that we remember our moments powerfully.” – Danish Ahmed & Steve Rogers
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Time Sensitive Goals & Interdependent Goals
The “T” in the SMART goal formula represents time-sensitivity. That is, our goals should have a specific date associated to them.
However, there are two kinds of dates that can be associated with a goal. The first may be obvious. This is a hard date. A hard date is a calendar date denoting a specific moment in time. We strive to attain our goals, a specific measurable result, by this moment in time.
The second kind of date is a reward-associated date. This is a dynamic moment in time that is represented by another achievement. For example, I have a goal of going to Amsterdam for a vacation. Rather than having a hard date associated to it, I have a dynamic date. That is, I will go to Amsterdam on a vacation once I get out of debt. So, one goal (the goal of going to Amsterdam) is dependent on me achieving another goal (the goal of getting out of debt). This is a powerful tool, because one goal reinforces another goal. (Note that the independent goal may have a hard date, causing the dependent goal to have an implicit hard date.)
Now here’s something really cool! How about we make some of our goal dates dependent on the achievement of SOMEONE ELSE’S goals. In other words, the achievement of our goal PRESUPPOSES the achievement of someone else’s goal. Here’s an example. Steve Rogers is currently working on creating electronic interactive media for Ordinary Words Inc. (with no immediate compensation). His goal is to make money from this endeavor. Him making money from media for Ordinary Words Inc. presupposes that Ordinary Words Inc. will make money from these mediums. Since a time investment is needed on the part of Ordinary Words Inc. to yield a profitable return, an interdependent relationship is thus created.
Of course, we just can’t choose anyone to have interdependent goals with. They must be a very good friend, someone who we can really trust and someone who is really determined to reach their goals. An ideal partner for interdependent goal setting is, of course, our significant other.
For more information on interdependency, please read A Dictionary of Distinctions chapter: “Dependence, Independence & Interdependence.”
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“The consistency of goal-setting is what creates the momentum needed for success.” – Danish Ahmed
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Professionally Speaking...

St. Marks Pres. Church
1 Greenland Road (Don Mills/Lawrence, Toronto)
Thursday, September 12, 2002, 7:00 PM

"International Community Development" - Canada World Youth
Weekend of Active Involvement in Volunteering
Metro Hall (King/John, Toronto)
Friday September 13 to Sunday September 15, 2002

Queen's Park
14 Carlton St., 2nd Floor (Toronto)
Wednesday, September 18, 2002, 6:00 PM
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“A lack of faith is what causes us to live day-to-day rather than designing our lives.” – Danish Ahmed
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Sent: Aug 10, 2002
Subject: Be Here Now

Welcome to the Distinctions e-Zine...
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“Acknowledgment opens a new entrance into higher communication. Acknowledgment is the truth, and without that, there’s only inauthenticity.” – Danish Ahmed
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Personal Quotations
We all have moments of brilliance! While talking to a friend, seeing a movie, or just thinking casually, we sometimes conjure up ideas, thoughts, and concepts which are “cool.” Other people can benefit from those cool thoughts, too. Anthony Robbins always says, “If you’re life is worth living, it’s worth recording.”
Take the time to write down your moments of brilliance. True, in retrospect, some of them may look silly or insignificant. But as we do it more and more often, we’ll discover that there are also those that will develop into gems. That’s how I come up with my quotes. And that’s how you can come up with your own.
In fact, why don’t you send me some of the quotes, thoughts, or ideas you come up with? This is a growing community and I would love to have members of the community contribute to this e-zine. Who knows? Your quote may be the next quote that gets famous!

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“The power of a room exists in its listening.” – Steve Rogers
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Web Site Enhancements
Thanks to all of you who recommend other personal development programs to me. Our list of resources on the Links section of the web site is continually expanding! Check out the latest at http://www.dictionaryofdistinctions.com/linksf.html.
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“The game is never over. It’s just that the parameters have changed.” – Danish Ahmed
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Getting out of Our Present / Seeing out of Our Present
Lots of philosophies talk about being in the moment, staying present, being here now, etc. That’s all good and true. But there is a distinction that I think is valuable to be aware of.
Yes, we don’t want to “get” out of the present. Doing so has us live in the past or future, a place where we have no control over. Our imagination takes control and we don’t get anything done in the present. However, it is important that sometimes we “see” out of our present. That is, be in the moment, but notice what happened in the past and what we want to happen in the future. Answer the question, what is the bigger picture?
See, it’s sometimes easy to really get “stuck” in the moment. For example, our emotions have a way of becoming pervasive over our whole lives. We may feel down because we lost a business opportunity, but suddenly, our depression causes us to see our relationships in a negative light. Our emotions have a way of transposing themselves in all areas of our lives, based on the current moment.
Let’s be here now. Let’s feel our emotions. Let’s also see ourselves void of our present circumstances. Let’s see ourselves not as where we are, but where we will be.
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“We are happy not when we get something we wanted. We are happy when we become present to the possibility of getting something we want.” – Danish Ahmed
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Professionally Speaking...

"Distinctions in Sales"
E-Talk
905 King St. W., 6th Floor (Toronto)
Thursday, August 15, 2002, 12:00 PM

"Spontaneously Speaking..."
CIBC Wood Gundy
BCE Place 6th Floor (Toronto)
Tuesday, August 20, 2002, 12:00 PM

"Career Development & Entrepreneurship"
Location TBA (Atlanta, Georgia)
Tuesday, August 27, 2002, 6:30 PM
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“Love is what happens in mutual moments of undisclosed consent.” – Danish Ahmed
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Sent: July 27, 2002
Subject: DOD: Thought, Reality & SMART Distinctions

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Ordinary Words ~ Extraordinary Power (TM)

“‘Stuff’ happens to everyone. Those of us who are living ordinary lives interpret the ‘stuff’ as bad luck, unfortunate circumstances, or a foul word. Those of us who are on a mission, with a specific goal or destination for our lives, see the ‘stuff’ as merely obstacles that must be overcome. Our disposition to life determines our interpretation.” – Danish Ahmed
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Thought & Reality
When we let other people’s thought patterns be part of ours, we’re not completely in control. Thought is what creates reality, and in order to create the reality we want, we have to have just our thoughts.
Let me explain. Dr. Wayne Dyer speaks a lot about this. He says, although the universe is made out of matter, what really “matters” is thought. Thought controls and shapes everything. Our entire reality is based on our thoughts. Dr. Dyer proves this in many ways (which I don’t have time to go into right now.)
So, let’s not be affected by other people’s thoughts as they might negatively impact us. Let’s not allow other people’s opinions, ideas, comments, judgments or assessments of ourselves affect us.
You may be thinking (and notice that you’re “thinking”) that we live in world where we must interact with others, and therefore we cannot survive if we don’t consider how others might feel about our actions. True. There is a line of discretion as there is with all philosophies. And, as with all philosophies, it is the conscious understanding of choice that gives us power. Choose to take on other people’s thoughts, or choose not to, based on the situation. But by all means, let us do so with conscious choice.
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“Let’s authentically accept the past and completely trust the future, for only then can we truly be living in the present.” – Danish Ahmed
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Some SMART distinctions.
Goals should be written down and have the following SMART attributes:
Specific. We need to have hard numbers on our goals. However, this is not to be confused with being “precise.” It’s ok to have ranges of numbers. In fact, it’s better for the subconscious mind if we have a “minimum,” “target,” and “outrageous” goal set. That way, we have both the advantage of setting a high goal that we would love, and still be excited if we only achieve our “minimum.”
Measurable. This is so we will know whether our goals are being achieved or not. This is not to be confused with being “comparable.” Sometimes we set goals and then check and see how our friends, who may have similar goals, are doing. Goals are not meant to be compared with others. We want to compare our achievements with our own past.
Affirmative and Action-oriented. Our minds don’t like to stop old habits, but love to create new habits. This doesn’t mean that we need to be “achieve”-oriented and that all our goals should help us be more productive or successful. Goals can be about taking time off, having fun, living, laughing, and enjoying life.
Realistic. The subconscious mind will reject goals that are not realistic. However, “realistic” is not the opposite of “optimistic.” We can have optimistic goals that are also realistic. In fact, these are the best types of goals to have.
Time-sensitive. Without a due date, we would never return a book to the library. Note that “time-sensitive” doesn’t mean “time-constrained.” We’re allowed to go back to the library and borrow the same book again. So, let’s not feel guilty if we haven’t achieved a goal in a particular time-period. Let’s reset the goal and go for it again.
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“Communication is using your mind to discover your soul.” – Danish Ahmed
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Professionally Speaking...

“Summer Resolutions” by Danish Ahmed
Breakfast Television, CityTV
Monday, July 29, sometime between 7:15 to 8:40 AM

"Career Development & Entrepreneurship" by Danish Ahmed
Location TBA (Atlanta, Georgia)
Tuesday, August 27, 2002, 6:30 PM
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“Listening from nothing is a great first step because it allows us not to have any inaccurate thoughts or assumptions about the other person’s situation. Listening from everything is better, because that allows us complete access to the other person’s world.” – Danish Ahmed & Steve Rogers
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Sent: July 14, 2002
Subject: DoD: The Secret of Success!!!

Welcome to the Distinctions e-Zine...
Ordinary Words ~ Extraordinary Power

“In the movie ‘Training Day’ we heard a common phrase: ‘It’s not what you know, it’s what you can prove.’ That’s why it’s important not only to learn, but then to teach what we’ve learned to others. This insures our ability to prove what we know.” – Danish Ahmed
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The Key To Networking...
I’m so excited because I know there’s going to be a technology in the future where we will all be able to get in touch with everyone we have ever met. In fact, this is possible today if the next generation is willing to take note of everyone’s e-mail address, and update them periodically. Now imagine a future where we remember someone from our past that we want to get in touch with, and we can - it’s possible, instantaneously. We create such a large network of people that we know in our life, that the whole concept of networking increases exponentially such that people are accomplishing a lot more. People are being a lot more productive, as they should, since they have a bigger “human resource” department to draw from. Society is gaining so much, because everyone trusts each other.
Isn’t that what networking is? We trust someone from our past or via an association. That’s why most of us don’t talk to strangers. We could be talking to strangers on the street and networking with them, but we lack the initial trust.
Now back to our possible future. When we start having trust with so many other people in the world, what type of community will be created? Eventually, there will be no strangers. Just people who are 4 or 5 degrees of separation away from us, rather than 1, 2, or 3.
So there are really two keys here. Firstly, live in this future and stay connected to people, if only by e-mail. It doesn’t matter how well we “hit it off” because people change. Whom we don’t like that much today, we may love tomorrow. Heck, we may even be losing a potential spouse! Staying in touch is easy and it’s worth it. Secondly, learn to talk to strangers. This is where network marketing takes the cake. They really teach us how to do this effectively and it is so worthwhile. We teach our kids not to talk to strangers for good reason. But we somehow grow up as adults not wanting to talk to strangers either. What a waste! You know, strangers can only stay strangers for about 30 seconds.
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“There’s a roadblock that we face when learning a new language. We get stuck in a particular place because we don’t understand the cultural context. That’s what happens when we confine our learning to be from a dictionary, rather from distinctions.” – Danish Ahmed
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The Secret of My Success
Everyone tries to communicate their particular “secret.” And here’s mine:
I always thought I was committed. I put in 100%, I go all out. Then, I sit back and wonder what the true “secret” is that gets others to succeed? Every great speaker talks about it. We must come to a point where we will not be denied our dream. I, and probably most others, think we understand this, especially at first. We keep trying, and trying, and trying, and we don’t give up.
But what I’ve discovered this secret truly means is that we don’t even bother to figure out what we’re going to do as a backup plan if we don’t succeed (and especially when it gets too tough). Some people might think this is crazy - I know I did. But it really makes the difference. When we come to realize that no matter what happens, we’re going to break-through whatever obstacles come our way because of our relentless commitment, that’s when we succeed. We’ll always use a back-door if we create one.
Marianne Williamson talks about the Hollywood story of an actress whose mentor says “Don’t wait to be discovered by a producer. Produce yourself.” Success isn’t about waiting to find the “secret.” The secret is, to produce ourselves into our success.
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“When asking someone about an experience they had, don’t just ask them to tell you what happened, ask them to tell you the emotions and feelings they experienced.” – Danish Ahmed
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Professionally Speaking...

“Spontaneously Speaking” by Danish Ahmed
YMCA on Grosvenor Street, near College (Toronto, Canada)
Wednesday, July 24, 2002, 6:00 PM
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“Don’t underestimate the power of hugging. Communication is verbal, visual, and physical.” – Danish Ahmed
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Sent: June 27, 2002
Subject: DoD: Special Edition

Welcome to the Distinctions e-Zine...
Ordinary Words ~ Extraordinary Power

“As an author, I don’t enjoy writing about what I know, as much as writing about what I would like to know, discovering it, and then communicating that process of discovery to my readers.” – Danish Ahmed
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Unique, Powerful, and Concise.
These are the three elements I think are very important in writing my articles or chapters of my books. Unique, because I want us to discover something new. Powerful, because I want us to all benefit from it. Concise, because I want us all to get value quickly. Then, I thought, why can’t I generate quotations? Quotations are even more unique, powerful, and concise. They could communicate wonders in seconds.
So, there are two issues to deal with, in quotations. Firstly, because they are so concise, sometimes we tend to read them quickly without really digesting their true meaning and value. I encourage us all to give each of the quotations in this special issue the attention we give articles. Because, they can be as powerful as articles.
Secondly, aren’t quotations usually taken from other people? And aren’t they usually a part of a bigger text? Well, you know me, I seldom do things like everyone else. I’ve just come up with these quotations. They sound valuable to me. I may use them as part of a bigger text (perhaps in a future book), but they stand very well alone on their own.
So, enjoy the quotations. Feel free to quote me. And, as always, I’ll welcome your comments.

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“Read this slowly. Read it again. Think about it. Communication doesn’t just occur through the processes of visual recognition, language dissection, and cognitive understanding. Communication can go beyond that, into a genesis of new thought creation, action realignment, and evolutionary transformation.” – Danish Ahmed

“Evolution just doesn’t happen generation through generation. Maybe genetically, that’s true. But evolution is beyond genetics. For example, how about the way we communicate? We don’t just communicate and have evolving communication with our children. We communicate with everyone else. And so evolution isn’t a genetic thing. Evolution, now, is a global community thing.” – Danish Ahmed

“We’re in a communications era that will transform society. But it’s not just about the speed of communication or the facets of communication through technology. It’s about the quality and depth of communication through all disciplines of self-discovery and enlightenment.” – Danish Ahmed

“Communication can move faster than the speed of light. How? Because of quantity. Because we can pack more meaning into communication than we can pack energy into light.” – Steve Rogers & Danish Ahmed

“When we started to print dictionaries, we started to write them in a certain time period. Although our language has changed, the dictionaries stay consistent to that time period. Sure, definitions are updated periodically, but the context in which the definitions are written, since they’re historically revisited, remain inherently dated. What ‘A Dictionary of Distinctions’ does, through comparisons of words, is show us the modern day meaning of what we’ve created communication to mean to us. It’s a whole new paradigm of communication, beyond definition, into contextual usage.” – Danish Ahmed

“The way we feel good in relationships is through communication. The better the quality of communication within the relationship, the better the relationship.” – Danish Ahmed


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“We sometimes try to prove our point instead of sharing our point of view. When we trust that the other person will have gotten us, then there’s no room left for righteousness.” – Danish Ahmed

“We talk about relatedness as if it is limited to people who share similar experiences, or have similar backgrounds, or participate in similar activities. Beyond that, there are people who have relatedness based on soul, having common characteristics of our souls come together. And now we are seeing the beginnings of a ‘soul culture.’” – Danish Ahmed & Steve Rogers

“Giving up control is what creates communication flow in a relationship.” – Danish Ahmed

“What causes mutual attraction is the willingness to be with each other, completely, without self-righteousness.” – Danish Ahmed & Steve Rogers

“The line of discretion between friendship and a long-term, committed relationship could be that line where we take on the other person’s life, and their life is ours just as much as our life is ours.” – Danish Ahmed

“Landmark Education says, ‘wherever you are works.’ In relationships, then, wherever the two of us are, or in saying to ourselves, ‘wherever we are works,’ that’s what creates powerful relationships.” – Danish Ahmed


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“Whenever someone laughs, even if we don’t know what’s funny, let’s laugh with them. Laughter is healthy and doesn’t need any logical reason behind it.” – Danish Ahmed

“A great life is when big things are minor details.” – Danish Ahmed

“What good is icing on the cake, if you can’t have your cake and eat it too?” – Danish Ahmed

“There’s no right answer, by the way; it’s the search for the answer, that paves the way.” - Steve Rogers

“Real improv is where there are no parameters - no location, no relationships, nothing. We must just be.” – Danish Ahmed


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“There are so many people, groups, and communities out there that are literally transforming our communication, positively revolutionizing our world, and significantly impacting the face of existence as we now know it. If we simply believe that the world is full of doom and gloom, then we either watch too much news-media and/or don’t talk to enough new and different people each day.” – Danish Ahmed

"Every paradigm works. The reason we don't think a certain other paradigm works is because we look at it from our current paradigm. Of course the other paradigm doesn't work then! If we look at it from the other paradigm, then that paradigm works. Every paradigm works." – Danish Ahmed

“When we’re really being who we are, we don’t have to do anything. Others won’t notice what we have or haven’t done, they’ll just experience who we are.” – Danish Ahmed

“Sometimes we allow our first response to be our complete response. Maybe our response was just our ‘first’ response.” – Danish Ahmed

“We sometimes say ‘I knew that! That’s simple, it’s easy to do’ and then we don’t do it. That’s because, no matter how easy something is, it’s always EASIER NOT to do it.” – Danish Ahmed

“The reason I know everything I know is because I chose to do everything I ever had an opportunity to do. The reason you know what you know, is because you chose or didn’t choose to do the things you had an opportunity to do.” – Danish Ahmed


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“Let’s use these distinctions, or knowledge and skills from any personal development program, only as a possible context to our way of being. Going any further, certainly treating the information as Gospel, is what associates any good system as a cult.” – Danish Ahmed

“When we give up the freedom to be right, we see the other person’s truth. In that moment, there is love.” – Steve Rogers

“Financial stability has to do more with who we are, than what we have.” – Steve Rogers

“Soon we will be in an era where technology is created faster than the time people have to comprehend it. Therefore, we will see things, work with things, and interact with things we don’t even understand, nor aware that they are pieces of technology.” – Danish Ahmed
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Sent: June 14, 2002
Subject: DoD: Beginning of Power; Your FREE Book

Welcome to the Distinctions e-Zine...
Ordinary Words ~ Extraordinary Power

“I checked out [Danish’s] website and just left amazon.com. I can’t wait to receive [the] book. I haven’t been that excited in a long time to make a purchase.” – Amber Vance, Pharmaceuticals, Greenville, North Carolina
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The Beginning of Power
Power. To distinguish what I mean by power, I must tell you firstly what I don’t mean. Power is not bad. Power does not corrupt. The power that most people think of when we use the word “power” is something hungry rich people strive for when their striving for money becomes too easy. I don’t think most people do that, but even if there are people who do do that, then that’s not power they’re seeking, that’s control. And that’s not what we’re talking about.
How are we ever going to become “powerful” people if subconsciously we have a value system that tells us power is evil? It won’t happen. But do you want to live your life fully and powerfully? If you do, then we have to recreate that word. So what is true power?
Power is having the ability to choose. Most of us don’t exercise that ability. We become complacent in whatever rituals we have day-to-day and wallow in our own mediocrity of life. When you, or I, or people we know live in a paradigm where we choose our lives, we create power. If we all exercise that choice, doesn’t that make for a powerful community? When everybody chooses, everybody wins. It’s not a “power struggle.” We can all choose, we can all choose different things, in fact, and we can all still be powerful.
Scott Michael says “The Will To Win, Springs from the Knowledge that You Can Win.” So what gets us to the momentum of having and causing choice, is the simple fact of knowing that we do have choice. That’s what most other motivational speakers do. They give you stories of how other people succeeded, despite the odds, through their knowledge and their choices. What they are doing is bringing to us the knowledge that the Choice is there. We can exercise the same choices that other people exercised - and get the same rewards that other people got.
Anyone can give us all the tools, techniques, methodologies, or technologies to transform our lives. But until we choose a different direction for our lives than the one we’re currently on, none of those things can do anything! Choice always has to come first. And that’s why the beginning of power is Choice.
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“Keep your shoulder to the wheel, your nose to the grindstone, your ear to the ground, which of course is a very hard position to work in.” – Jerry Meadows
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Manage Your State, or Utilize Your State
Managing your state is having the ability to control your body, thoughts, and emotions at a given time. For example, our best friend died last week, and now we need to give a job interview. Well, we need to manage our state and be effective in the interview. We can do this by generating ourselves in a certain way that causes our body, thoughts, and emotions to be 100% focused on the interview. And lots of personal development programs teach us how to do this (NLP is probably one of the best programs for this).
Those technologies are great. But there are times when we should just use Gestalt Therapy. That is, be with our emotions. Just let it all through. Let’s not force ourselves to be a certain way all the time. Yes, there are times we need to suppress, control, or generate our way of being. But when we get a chance, let it all out. Let’s not keep it all in our bodies, for it just gets out more slowly, in other ways, and in ways we may not like.
There are times to feel good and there are times to feel bad. I cried and screamed for 20 minutes last weeks because I was frustrated at my lack of success. But as my tears released the poison from my body, afterwards, I was on top of the world again. Like Chumbawamba says, “I get knocked down, but I get up again.” The secret is not keeping ourselves up; the secret is getting back up when we’re down (or once we’re “finished” being down).
This is called my “Feel Bad Strategy.” One important cheviot, however, is never to make any decisions when we’re feeling bad. When we feel bad, we’re usually in place where we want to do something drastic. If we were in more of a powerful place, we may not want to do something so drastic. So let’s keep our decision making exercises to the times when we feel good.
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“Don’t try to speed it up, or slow it down. Just be with the ride. And if the ride is good, extend the moment.” – Danish Ahmed
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“When we live in possibility and then allow the universe to choose, we truly cannot have any regrets even if the universe didn’t create our possibility, for at least we know that we have already experienced the possibility we were seeking anyway.” – Danish Ahmed
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Sent: May 29, 2002

Welcome to the Distinctions Newsletter...

“I believe every person has a heart, and if you can reach it, you can make a difference.” – Uli Derickson, Flight Attendant on hijacked TWA flight 847


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The Foundation of Wisdom - http://www.Dictionary


The Best Friend

Our best friend is the person who knows the most about us and our lives. We may have friends in different communities of our lives (e.g., health club, education, work, family, church) where we only talk about that particular community, or very little else. However, a best friend is someone who knows about our involvement in every single one of the communities that we are involved in on an intimate level.
A best friend is a very important person to have in our lives because that person knows the entire context and content of our lives. If something new happens in our life, the first person we are likely to tell is our best friend. This is because our best friend will have the most information and experience to draw from in order to give us the best response. And it is in these moments in particular (when we have something new happen in our lives) that we make use of a best friend.
It’s great to be a social bud and have lots of great friends. But don’t underestimate the value of a truly good, best friend.


“Some people are disturbed by those tough days because all they have is the days. They haven't designed or described or defined the future.” Jim Rohn


Professions from Education

Our education system is great in giving us general knowledge that we can apply in all sorts of disciplines. However, I believe there is very little effort put into really making us aware of the true variety of choices we have in creating a profession for ourselves.
For example, the following are very interesting professions that I never heard fellow students ever saying, “I want to be...”
A Publicist, An Importer/Exporter, A Flight Attendant, A Marine Biologist, A Massage Therapist, A Psychologist, A Literary Agent, A Booking Agent, A Network Marketer, A Real Estate Tycoon, A Farmer, A Seminar Trainer, A Hotel Manager, A Clown, A Management Consultant, A Sales Executive, A Restaurant Owner, A Chef, A Venture Capitalist, A Costume Designer, and literally thousands more.
All of these occupations are all wonderful and an important part of our society. Yet people find themselves here out of luck, networking, or being at the right place at the right time. They usually didn’t have a specific “dream” of being one of these things. Typically, it was a dream of being a Doctor, Lawyer, Nurse, Actress, or Teacher. What would our world be like if more people had legitimate dreams of being all the professionals that are, and will be, available to us?


“The problem with a lot of people, why they don’t move ahead in the world, is because they always feel that they don’t have choice. They feel that this is it, and become complacent with themselves.” - Kevork Guerguerian


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Sent: May 21, 2002

Welcome to the Distinctions Newsletter...

What is the _source_ of cynicism?

Really. Think about it.

A good question Steve Rogers asked. I will be answering it in the upcoming distinction of Skepticism & Cynicism. First, here’s the status:

My web-site is up. Please visit it at http://www.DictionaryOfDistinctions.com. It’s the first version that’s live, so I would really appreciate it if all of you could offer sincere feedback. Anything from what looks good, and what could be added, to the new ideas, logos and interactive content. Please don’t hesitate to be brutally honest and blunt. You are the core team of people that will create who I am for the larger media.

I am now doing this full-time. I have hired a publicist and a marketing manager. We are currently working on trying to create a specific brand for me and identifying a target market. One idea is targeting the youth market, ages 18-30. What do you think? No other professional speakers specifically target this audience, maybe for a good reason. I think that I could really relate to this audience.

On the slow side, there are so many political games being played in the publishing industry. That’s why my book is still not available in retail stores. I’m trying to play the game, but it’s very difficult. The universe does come together for people who put out the right energy, though. A couple of weekends ago I met someone in an elevator in New Jersey and struck up a conversation. When I asked his name, he said “Charlie Jones.” I said, “Charlie ‘Tremendous’ Jones?” He said “Yes,” and I made a good contact. (Charlie facilitates “book orgies” and owns a publishing company dedicated to helping professional speakers.)

Life really works when you’re out there playing. Get on the field on life.

So what’s the source of optimism? Reading inspirational stories, for one.

Thanks for reading.
 
 
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